People talk about life purpose as if it’s a particular job title or career to stumble upon and then pursue. As if all jobs that came before that “life purpose” discovery are wasted experiences. As if you’re late to the successful people party and need to catch up to do that thing you are supposed to be doing. As if once you find “it” you’re done. You’re set. You’re in. You know. You’re there. And yet, in truth, the jobs we hold are only one aspect of living our purpose. Oh, and also- it is quite impossible to be late to a party that is only ever happening NOW.
Your life purpose is to live YOUR particular life. It is to follow your own unique path as directed by your own inner guidance. It is to find alignment with the largest and most expansive part of you - your soul body - the part that never wavers in its attention and support of you. It holds the original blueprint to the life of your dreams - the life that feels most true and authentic and familiar as if it is the life you have always desired, the life you may have forgotten you came here to live.
Part of your life’s purpose is to return home to yourself. It is to pursue your own healing and find peace within. It is to quiet your mind, pull your focus inward, and listen to your own intuitive guidance. It is to seek out the simple pleasures that bring you joy, to find more and more things to feel good about. Every day. It is to move in the direction of your natural curiosities; those unique and eclectic interests, talents, and affinities which make you, you. And to take any particular actions that feel fun and/or inspired.
This dream life - your life’s purpose - is not only about the tasks you complete, the titles you hold, the people with whom you associate, or the legacy that you leave. It is about the energy you contribute to your environment. Daily. It is your feeling of personal satisfaction, enjoyment, and fulfillment regardless of what job you are doing and where you are doing it.
Your life’s purpose is to honor your soul’s directives and to live your life’s joy. And to return to this knowing whenever you forget.
Here's an alternative mindset I've been practicing whenever I find myself fearfully scrambling to figure it all out RIGHT NOW:
"I don't know how it's going to happen. I don't know how it's all going to work. I don't know how I'm going to get there. But I'm super excited to find out. "
This isn't the first time you didn't know the way. Yet, somehow you still managed to arrive. This time is no different. Stay open to being guided. Believe you will be shown. Rely on your intuition. Follow the path as it appears. Keep the vision. Take the steps. Trust the process.
Yesterday I looked at the dirty plastic folding chair on my porch- the one that looks like I pulled it out of the trash - and thought, "you know, I'd really like to have better furniture out here." I've thought about upgrading for awhile but never really prioritized it as a must-do. So as I had done before, I had the thought, made the simple energetic request, and imagined what it would feel like to enjoy my outdoor space more. I figured I'd look for something over the weekend and so I went about my day and forgot about it.
Then, in a magical turn of events last night, my neighbor randomly asked me if I wanted some of his old outdoor furniture- specifically a steel rocking chair- still in great condition and the perfect size for my porch. Umm yes, please.
Why some things manifest in minutes and others seem to take forever is a mystery. Perhaps it's a combination of our readiness and our resistance levels, how attached we are to the outcome, and how much we can trust in the unfathomable magic of divine timing.
"Impatience means I believe something’s not going to happen.“ -Joe Dispenza
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.“ -A Course In Miracles
I really liked this combo of quotes. Especially if we‘re talking about presence, patience, following the energy of the moment, and trusting in life as our co-creative partner. (And we‘re always talking about that).
Just going to leave them right here...
“Life takes care of me. Always. I have nothing to fear and I have everything to appreciate. I am never doing this alone. I can walk in the world with ease, trusting that all comes to me and all comes to be in perfect time.”
This was the message that came through my higher guidance this morning when I asked what I could remember to help me move through some of the resistance I was feeling toward my day. Despite “knowing better” I had a huge feeling of overwhelm and responsibility. The need to get my plans in motion and to figure out all the details right now.
A couple of hours later, while running on a rarely frequented street in my neighborhood, I stopped to take this picture. It occurred to me afterwards that I had taken a very similar photo in the exact same spot nearly 2 years ago. So much has taken place since then. So many experiences and opportunities that came in - often by pleasant surprise - and all in a way that was beyond my imagination. Beyond what I could have figured out beforehand or attempted to do alone.
Thank you life for the perfect example. I get it. Trust trust trust trust trust...
Maybe life isn't withholding anything from you after all. Maybe it's just waiting on your readiness and relying on your willingness to change so that it can set up all the important pieces, arrange meetings with the relevant players, and slowly prepare you for the part you hope to play, the things you'd like to experience, and the way you'd like to feel. Maybe you're right where you need to be in this process of alignment. Maybe life is actually supporting you with its timing as it orchestrates - and excitedly anticipates -your eventual becoming.
There really is an answer to every call, a deliverance for every request. It's real. It's resonance. Energetic. Scientific. What you are looking for is looking for you too. Just have to keep your mind clear enough to receive the guidance, your body tuned in enough to show you the way. What you are hoping to find, is hoping to be found. Just have to keep your eyes -and heart- open enough to recognize it when you do.
As an intuitive, I tend to get a lot of requests from people seeking clarity around their romantic relationships or interests, wanting to know how or when they will find love with this particular person or another in the future. The guidance that comes through is always specific to the individual, yet there's a certain piece of awareness I was given, which I find to be a very helpful reminder:
Love is not the same thing as a romantic relationship or partnership. That's a commitment between two individuals on a synced up timeline, sharing similar lifestyles, values, and goals. It's two people choosing to connect over a joint mission. Love itself, is a state of being. It's a memory awakened, a homecoming, a rediscovery of one's own soul. True love is a state of total freedom and acceptance. It is an unconditional allowance to be who we are, as we are. It is seeing and being seen through the eyes of the divine. Love is where we come from. That is why it feels so amazing to "fall into" it. Because we fall into our eternal self. We reconnect to our infinite nature. We are reminded of our true origin.
Love is a personal journey experienced within our own body. We feel more love from the outside world as we feel more of it within and for ourselves. And we feel more of it for ourselves, as we honor and allow our most authentic self-expression to arise; by listening to our soul's whispers, overcoming the ego's fears, and doing what we are here on this planet to do. Love is found as we remember our highest spiritual source and embrace our truest self.
Romantic relationship is a mutual decision based on timing and practicalities. But love? Love is available to anyone, anytime, anywhere.
It's funny how we walk around this place often unaware of the roles we play for other people- the projections we embody, the reactions we provoke, the healings we inspire, and the ways in which we forever alter each other's self-conversations. We may not know the exact impact we have on each other's lives- we may not know how we help - but we can trust that we do. Just by being ourselves- our natural energetic presence. I like to think of this whenever I feel insignificant. I like to think of all the people out there who have no idea just how much they've helped me.
Finding exactly what you're looking for is awesome. Finding what you didn't even know you were looking for is way better.
What if you let life surprise you? What if you expected to find something good, but didn't put any restrictions on how good it could be? What if it was better than you could even imagine?
A friend keeps reminding me to "live in the question." So ok. Today I'm living in those.
Just as important as what we are ready to say yes to, is what we are ready and actually willing to say no to. I've noticed that every time I want to move forward with something, life will bring me an out, or more of the same situations that I am used to.
In moments like this, it's almost as if life is offering up a little test, waiting for us to take a different action, giving us an opportunity to make a new and more self-supportive choice. A choice that feels good and true and freeing in the body. A choice that is made out of self-love and not out of self-sabotage or fear.
Sometimes we pass the exam, sometimes we don't. It's all ok. It's all about readiness. And we can't be what we are not. But I do know that each and every time that I've been up to the challenge, it's been these new positive choices and actions that have eventually led to entirely new conditions. Like magic.
Last night I had a dream that I was running down the street; trying to make my way to the house of a couple whose lifestyle I admire. I've never met them in real life, but have been so inspired by their story through their blogs and podcasts. It's almost as if discovering them two years ago allowed me to rediscover a part of myself and the kind of life I really want to live. And so somewhere along the way, they must have become a symbolic representation of the future I've been working towards. In the dream, I felt like I could not run fast enough. I kept trying to push myself harder, but my pace remained a steady jog, instead of a sprint. I heard some threatening noises coming from across the street. I just HAD to reach my destination. I bumped into other people who crossed my path. I kept going. Kept trying to increase my speed. I had to get there and quick! And then before I could even make it, I woke up.
Sometimes dreams can be the most precious gifts of self-awareness. To attach a sense of solace or personal fulfillment to a future destination or temporary object is to forget the significance of the daily journey. It is to miss out on all the potent opportunities to meet life fully, to free ourselves through presence and to evolve through self-acceptance. We may be putting so much pressure on ourselves to get THERE, yet it is only ever HERE - in surrender to the truth of the moment - that a deeper sense of personal peace, healing, love, and sustained fulfillment can be found. The desires we have for the future are necessary for direction, motivation, and positive action. Our goals keep us moving toward more experiences of freedom and of joy. Yet, it's only in the NOW, that we ever get to feel it.
These petals fell off some flowers sitting in a nearby vase. While rearranging them into a pretty picture, I had this thought come through: Things are never as awful or as hopeless as you tell yourself they are. Difficult? Yes. Challenging? Yes. Requiring you to sit with sadness, discomfort, regret, and/or loneliness? Yes. Asking you to release your need to control everything? Yes!!! But hopeless? If you are still breathing, the answer is no.
There's always another way to achieve the essence of what you are seeking, another angle to approach from, another purpose to serve. There's always something new on its way- something just on the horizon- that you are not yet able to fully see. Trust that it's good and it will be. Trust that you are moving towards what you desire to experience (and how you desire to feel) more and more each day. Trust and then let your petals fall where they will.
So can I fly yet?... No? Not yet? Even though you gave me these wings and showed me where you want me to go and what you want me to do?... Um ok. No big. I'll just hang here in my old crawling spot... What? No, I was kidding! You ofcourse know best! I'm cool here. Juuuuust tell me when. I can totally wait...
Surrender doesn't mean giving UP. It doesn't mean giving IN. It means giving WAY to the greater intelligence within your heart, your own inner light. It means connecting with your highest, truest, and freest self - that constant, eternal, unwavering part of your being that never changes, judges, or abandons you. It means listening to what it has to say and letting it lead you down the path, trusting that you are moving in the right direction, even if your current circumstances indicate otherwise. Your passions are always on purpose.
In the midst of a life-altering shift, it's hard to believe that things are actually happening for us and that we are right where we need to be. As we free-fall into uncertainty, it can be difficult to trust where and even if we'll ever land.
If you find yourself floating in such a situation of confusion, if you're flying headfirst into foreign and unfamiliar territory, be as gentle and kind with yourself as you can throughout this process of transition. Know that at some point soon, you'll once again find yourself on solid ground. Remember that this is just a moment in the series of moments you will experience in a lifetime. It may very well be a pivotal point in your story, one which will undoubtably contribute to the wealth of knowledge, courage, and experience you will one day possess, as it helps you grow into the person you will one day become.
For now, remember that you are not alone in this struggle; help and support are much closer than you may believe. Find your footing beneath what is temporary. Connect to the timeless part of you. And let your future self guide you forward one step at a time.
Creativity is a process. Healing is a process. And you can only ever be where you are in the process. Some days you want to do cartwheels. Some days you want to hide under your coffee table.
Either way, it's all fine. You're walking a path. Be wherever you are on the path. It's more than ok. It's necessary.
Having a desire is one thing. Becoming the version of yourself that is capable of achieving/attracting/receiving that desire is another. It is all about what we are being. It is all about matching the energy of our intended outcome. And then ofcourse, believing in our ability to co-create with all that is. Letting go into the unfathomable infinity of possible and potential paths to its manifestation. And trusting the process without needing to predict how or where out of fear. It is all in our becoming. It is all in our strength of belief. It is all in our surrender to this magic.
“The Quantum Field responds not to what we want. It responds to who we are being. Since every potential in the universe is a wave of probability that has an electromagnetic field and is energetic in nature, it makes sense that our thoughts and feelings are no exception. The thoughts we think send an electrical signal out into the field. The feelings we generate magnetically draw events back to us. Together, how we think and how we feel produces a state of being, which generates an electromagnetic signature that influences every atom in our world. This should prompt us to ask, “what am I broadcasting (consciously or unconsciously) on a daily basis?” - Dr. Joe Dispenza
It’s hard to know when following the pull of our intuition, if we are just being led to another bridge or if we are to arrive at a more permanent destination. We can ask, “is this the RIGHT ONE?” when referring to a new love interest, job title, or residence. Yet, does it even really matter? Perhaps it doesn’t matter as much when we remember our eternal nature. That we are constantly expanding and evolving souls having human experiences, and that our true power, value, security, and identity doesn’t come from the other people in our lives or the situations in which we find ourselves. That true solace never comes from the temporary. And that Life is always taking us where we need to go next.
When we come from this viewpoint, we can trust that it is always the “right one” for what we need “right now,” whether it lasts one day, one year, or for the rest of our lives. And the “right now”- this present moment- is all we’re ever really living anyway.
I'm so tired of my anxieties about the future. I'm so exhausted by my need to figure it all out right now. Ughhh. Right??
I keep hearing "how much can you trust me? That is how much I can reward you."
Sooo ok. Here goes:
Today I put my trust in divine timing. I hand over all my worries and fears. I throw my hands up in a stance of peaceful surrender. I lovingly let go of my doubt. I open up to the perspective that all that happens to me, happens for me. That all is good and all is necessary. All is purposeful. I trust you, life. I trust where I am now and I trust where I am headed. I trust I am supported and will be guided every step of the way. I trust that I am always right where I need to be.
Ridge’s meaning: “the top or crest of something”
View’s definition: “a sight or prospect”
Crow’s message: Change, it is who you are and what you do. Transformation is unavoidable. Transitions are inevitable. Excitement and discomfort are your guides. You’ve asked for more. So let it come. Let it arrive as a surprise. Let it surpass your expectations. Trust in life’s magical and miraculous way of taking you where you’ve always wanted to go. Keep moving forward. Keep looking up.