Today I will be humble. I will be aware of my simultaneous significance and insignificance as a human being. I will be loving. I will greet others with the same respect and warmth I would hope to receive. I will be grateful. I will remember the interconnection of all things, the illusion of linear time, and the truth that energy can neither be created nor destroyed. I will know that all that once existed still exists in different form. I will feel safe in my body, trusting that the natural expression of my essence is the temporary role I am here to play. Whatever passions excite me, whatever delights my spirit, whatever leaves me with a peaceful sense of purpose, is the way in which I send out love to my environment. It is my unique contribution to the collective. I will be myself. I will walk the world with patience and with ease, knowing that wherever I wander I am home.
To give a gift, to send love, support, and admiration to another without expectation of how and even if it is going to be received is to experience the incredible freedom of unconditional love. It's to lead with compassion and to remember that nothing is personal. That another being's inability to respond to you as you'd hoped they would says more about them than it ever has to about you. It's to let go of another's power over you. It's to affirm the truth that no other living being is the source of your joy. It's to open your heart even more. And by doing so, you, the giver, unintentionally receive your own gift.
I used to think I had to do big things to change the world, that I had to be "someone" to really have an effect, to really make a difference. But separation is an illusion. Everything we do is a contribution to the collective. All thoughts, all prayers, all daily actions taken out of love. You don't have to be someone in order to make a huge impact. You already are. You already do.
Give another person your full attention today. Put down your physical distractions. Tune out your mental ones. Actually listen to what the other person is saying. Hear their words and the spaces in between. Hold the space for their authenticity. Be open, be patient, be compassionate. Attempt to understand their point of view.
I know, multitasking seems to be a necessity these days. We've all got a million super important things that need to get done and we seem to allllways be short on time. Yet, taking a few minutes to be fully present with another person is a huge gift. For both parties. Because, in truth, we all want to be acknowledged and accepted for who we are- for who we really are. We all long to be understood. We all want to feel valued. And we all benefit from soulful connection.
Be present with another soul today. Allow them to feel seen and heard without judgment. Remind them of who they really are underneath surface appearances and chosen identities. Remind them with your undivided attention. Remind them of their importance. Remind them that they matter.
I'm currently working on a resource for energetically sensitive individuals. It feels... necessary. Sensi-identifying or not, as humans we are all empathic. And it's usually when we are unconscious of our own sensitivity and natural empathic response, when we do not recognize our responsibility in maintaining our own energetic boundaries, that we get swept up in the vibration of another. We may also become incredibly susceptible to getting caught up in a collective energetic movement, especially the movements that are rooted in fear and negativity. Fear and negativity will not aid you on your mission to change that which needs changing. Fear and negativity will deplete you. You are no good to the world when depleted. The world needs your authentic spark. The world needs your hope-based thoughts AND positive actions.
One quick tip: Plug into your true source before your news source. Before you let another temporary entity set the tone for your day, set your own. Whatever your spiritual practices are- meditation, yoga, exercise, nature walks, chakra clearing, earthing, time with your pet, mindfully brushing your teeth and just breathing - whatever it is that reconnects you to your own center, do that first. Do it before turning on the TV, checking your newsfeed, putting on the radio, etc. It's important to be informed but it's more important to stay empowered.
What good is this now inspiring me to do? What expression of love is this now inspiring me to be?
We all have the ability to positively affect the environment around us. We get stuck in upsetting news or events when we feel powerless, but our power always lies in our ability to alter our energetic expression. To focus our attention toward solution. To see beyond current circumstances. To have new conversations. To ask new questions. To create space for new possibilities. To take actions from a place of love, compassion, and hope. To encourage others to do the same. May what upsets you in the world, be what inspires you to change it.
Loving somebody doesn't mean taking on their burdens or succumbing to their moods. If someone else is experiencing a temporary disconnect from their source or a momentary feeling of fear, powerlessness, or scarcity it does not mean you must join them in those feelings. Caring for another does not mean taking on their energy.
The most loving thing we can do for another is to acknowledge how they may feel, listen to them with an open heart, and look upon them with eyes of non-judgment. Let them know they are heard and understood. Give them a space to process through their current emotional darkness, but don't dim your own bulb and jump in there with them. They need your light! Letting that light go out won't help anyone. Instead use it to see the beauty when they can't, to remember their strength and power when they forget, and to maintain a higher and peaceful vibration. This may take a strong resolve (fear and negativity are easy to absorb and socially acceptable) but it does more for other people than we can imagine.
Sit in front of a mirror. Say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” Picture someone you have been upset with. Even if they were the one in the wrong. Say “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” Repeat until it takes. Repeat as needed.
I may have messed with the standard order of these phrases but I find this arrangement to be super helpful especially when feeling overwhelmed by heavy energies, like frustration and resentment. Pretty sure I recommend this life-changing practice at least once a day.
You cannot love a closed heart open. You cannot do someone else's healing work for them. You can assist with and inspire their process, you can love and support them on their personal path, but they must be willing to do the work. They must be ready to release the pain that has settled around their heart. You cannot fix anyone. You cannot save anyone from themselves. It is not your job to do so.
Just love them unconditionally and hold the highest of mental images for their future. Then, return your focus to your own healing. Keep opening up your own heart and releasing yourself from your own burdens. Practice seeing the good. Believe in the potential for positive outcomes. Learn to live as embodied love. And then, radiate those vibes out into the atmosphere. That is the best thing you can do for yourself and the world.
Don't take things so personally. How people react to you is never about you. It's always about them. You don't know what mental/emotional turmoil they've been going through. You don't know what insecurities and fears they have within, which you may be reflecting back. You don't know what judgments and criticisms they hold themselves -and therefore everyone else- to. Just be authentic, honest, respectful, compassionate and KIND. We are all doing the best we can from our levels of awareness. We are all connected in this crazy playground/prison of illusion and projection. And we all just want to feel safe and free.
This leaf jumped out at me today. Not literally. But sort of. I was in a cranky as shit, push the world away, close my heart kinda mood and, well, there it was. And of course, it fits perfectly with the message in today's cards:
Keep giving what you've got to give. Give out only what you'd want to receive.
Oooookay, I'm listening.
There was a beautiful plant that lived on my front steps. It was something I had inherited from the previous tenant but over the past few years I had adopted it and treated it as my own. It was in a bright blue pot which was the perfect compliment to the various succulents planted within it, as the colors were all quite vibrant including a particularly gorgeous bright red. I would charge my crystals in its soil during full moons. Even though I have little knowledge about plants or gardening, I really enjoyed watching it grow. It was the most eye pleasing spot on an otherwise uninteresting porch. It made me happy to see it.
This morning I came outside to find that this plant was gone. My first thought was "who the hell steals a plant?!" Maybe it was some intoxicated asshole thinking he or she was funny. Maybe it was someone who believes they have so little in their life that they need to take from others. And that sounds like a miserable existence. That sounds like punishment enough.
And while I'm sad that this beautiful object is gone, in truth it was never mine in the first place. Maybe nothing ever really is. I just got to enjoy it for awhile and give it some love. And in return, it gave me a little morning lesson in non-attachment. And forgiveness. So thank you, plant. I really hope your new "owner" treats you kindly.
Sometimes, with this whole social media thing, it can be easy to forget that there are actual people on the other end of these posts and profiles. Not just faceless followers. Not just numbers for vetting or validating your brand. But, like, real, heart-beating, air-breathing, life-living people.
Genuine interest in making a connection is just as easy to smell as spam.
Yesterday I saw some guy picking his nose at Ross. He wasn't being hesitant about it either. He was really going up there, right in the middle of the store. My immediate reaction was a grimace and a thought of "Gross, dude. Just gross. Ugggggghh. "
A while later while wandering around a different store, I suddenly had an insane itch under my right nostril. At the moment I began furiously scratching it with my index finger, a smiley salesperson walked by. He glanced in my direction, noticed what I appeared to be doing, and then quickly looked away. I found this very, very funny.