Here's an alternative mindset I've been practicing whenever I find myself fearfully scrambling to figure it all out RIGHT NOW:
"I don't know how it's going to happen. I don't know how it's all going to work. I don't know how I'm going to get there. But I'm super excited to find out. "
This isn't the first time you didn't know the way. Yet, somehow you still managed to arrive. This time is no different. Stay open to being guided. Believe you will be shown. Rely on your intuition. Follow the path as it appears. Keep the vision. Take the steps. Trust the process.
Quick workaround in the aftermath of an emotional expectation unmet:
1) Ask: How did I want this other person to behave or respond?
2) Ask: What would that have meant about me? Repeat the question several times, until you get to the quality or underlying emotional experience desired (i.e. It would mean I am.... valid, desirable, good enough, worthy, etc.)
3) Remember that the person who disappointed you is just another human work-in-progress, doing the best they can, acting and reacting from their own fixed beliefs, perspectives, and level of awareness. They are dealing with their own insecurities, their own internal atmosphere, and not to mention, their own daily tasks. Nothing is personal.
4) Ask: Why am I giving this other being so much control over my self-opinion? Why am I giving them so much authority in MY own life?
5) Take that quality or qualities from step 2 and affirm to yourself that you already are and always have been _______ (i.e. enough, worthy, important). No one else is the source of you feeling ________. Another person can be the activator, but all emotional states of being originate and are sustained from within.
6) Repeat step 5. Every day if you have to. Be your own activator.
"Impatience means I believe something’s not going to happen.“ -Joe Dispenza
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.“ -A Course In Miracles
I really liked this combo of quotes. Especially if we‘re talking about presence, patience, following the energy of the moment, and trusting in life as our co-creative partner. (And we‘re always talking about that).
Just going to leave them right here...
“Life takes care of me. Always. I have nothing to fear and I have everything to appreciate. I am never doing this alone. I can walk in the world with ease, trusting that all comes to me and all comes to be in perfect time.”
This was the message that came through my higher guidance this morning when I asked what I could remember to help me move through some of the resistance I was feeling toward my day. Despite “knowing better” I had a huge feeling of overwhelm and responsibility. The need to get my plans in motion and to figure out all the details right now.
A couple of hours later, while running on a rarely frequented street in my neighborhood, I stopped to take this picture. It occurred to me afterwards that I had taken a very similar photo in the exact same spot nearly 2 years ago. So much has taken place since then. So many experiences and opportunities that came in - often by pleasant surprise - and all in a way that was beyond my imagination. Beyond what I could have figured out beforehand or attempted to do alone.
Thank you life for the perfect example. I get it. Trust trust trust trust trust...
Maybe life isn't withholding anything from you after all. Maybe it's just waiting on your readiness and relying on your willingness to change so that it can set up all the important pieces, arrange meetings with the relevant players, and slowly prepare you for the part you hope to play, the things you'd like to experience, and the way you'd like to feel. Maybe you're right where you need to be in this process of alignment. Maybe life is actually supporting you with its timing as it orchestrates - and excitedly anticipates -your eventual becoming.
There really is an answer to every call, a deliverance for every request. It's real. It's resonance. Energetic. Scientific. What you are looking for is looking for you too. Just have to keep your mind clear enough to receive the guidance, your body tuned in enough to show you the way. What you are hoping to find, is hoping to be found. Just have to keep your eyes -and heart- open enough to recognize it when you do.
I will never ever join you in your hopelessness.
I will never ever believe that things are as helpless as you may temporarily believe.
I will always orient you toward solution.
I will always indicate what we must NOW do.
I will never harp on your “wrong” turns.
I will only ever guide you back in the “right” direction.
You can choose to line up with me to replenish your sense of hope and renew your sense of purpose or you can choose to continue having the same old negative and depleting conversations with other scared, disconnected people.
That mind of yours - that “thinking cap” you wear - can be plugged into whatever thought form you choose. A mob-mentality or predominant popular opinion may be a challenge to avoid but YOUR point of focus, YOUR place of attention is always YOUR choice.
Step away from the others for a second.
Put down your devices and their constant stream of information.
Connect to me first, before anything or anyone else. Seek me out at the center of your being. Regularly. Daily. Whenever you need.
I am always here for you.
So is peace.
So is calm.
So many inspired ideas.
So many ways to assist, to be a positive contribution to the world in which you live.
I hold all the answers to your questions.
I possess the maps to all your desired destinations.
And I will always be your safe space of regeneration and renewal, no matter the chaos that surrounds.
- The Source Within/Your Inner Divinity
So often we are sleepwalking through this existence without recognizing how magical the seemingly mundane really is. Everything within our world is alive and speaking to us. If we allow it, that is. If we can open up to this constant communication we can fully appreciate its beauty and receive its gifts. These sights can wake us up from our ordinary humanness. They can connect us to something bigger - to the essence of who we really are - beyond our monotony. They can remind us of our eternal nature, our responsibility, our greater purpose and our connection to everything everywhere.
With every inconvenience that my ego fights like a spoiled brat, my higher self responds with a "Ooooh but think about all we are going to gain. Imagine what this is forcing us to learn and to become. I wonder what role this is preparing us for." After varied amounts of whining and eye rolling, I usually surrender and trust my higher self.
This week, my sanctuary of a house is getting tented for termites. Yayyy fun. I fought the extermination and prayed and wished it away since it felt so violating and intrusive. It's my home! Yet, inevitably there was nothing I could do. Regardless of how sacred I make my house, how clean I keep it, or how safe and comfortable of a space I create, it's still just a building. It's still just a thing. Home is different. Home is a feeling. It's with me wherever I go. Home is the people that I love. Home is where my family is. And my dog. And let's be honest- my crystals and my decks.
Surrender doesn't mean giving UP. It doesn't mean giving IN. It means giving WAY to the greater intelligence within your heart, your own inner light. It means connecting with your highest, truest, and freest self - that constant, eternal, unwavering part of your being that never changes, judges, or abandons you. It means listening to what it has to say and letting it lead you down the path, trusting that you are moving in the right direction, even if your current circumstances indicate otherwise. Your passions are always on purpose.
It's very easy to get overwhelmed. To have to do so many things, to be present for so many people, and to be in so many places at once. Obligations, responsibilities, daily tasks and chores. Our personal energies split, scatter, and are often depleted before the day is through.
Everyone I've talked to this week- myself included- has been feeling the repercussions of being constantly connected to the people in our lives- as well as the anxious buzz of the outside world. If we don't plug in our own rechargeable batteries first, before giving of our energy, we won't have much to give. If we don't center in our own unique selves first, we can feel lost, confused, and completely disconnected from our intuition. We won't be able to hear that vital inner voice- the one that always guides us in the right direction. Mine keeps reminding me: "go somewhere green and ground."
Even if it's just within your imagination. It really only takes 1 minute to plant your feet in the grass and to become aware of YOUR breath, YOUR body, and the fact that you are a human being (doing the best you can) on a spinning planet somewhere in space.
Self-care isn't selfish. It's essential.
It seems like everyone else has what you don't have. It appears as if something has gone scarce or is being purposely withheld. And while this is definitely one version of reality, there's still a part of you that knows a more heavenly perspective. There's a part of you that still holds a less fractured point of truth. And when you find this spot within, when you tap into it, you remember. From here, there is nothing that you're missing. There is nothing that you lack.
In the midst of a life-altering shift, it's hard to believe that things are actually happening for us and that we are right where we need to be. As we free-fall into uncertainty, it can be difficult to trust where and even if we'll ever land.
If you find yourself floating in such a situation of confusion, if you're flying headfirst into foreign and unfamiliar territory, be as gentle and kind with yourself as you can throughout this process of transition. Know that at some point soon, you'll once again find yourself on solid ground. Remember that this is just a moment in the series of moments you will experience in a lifetime. It may very well be a pivotal point in your story, one which will undoubtably contribute to the wealth of knowledge, courage, and experience you will one day possess, as it helps you grow into the person you will one day become.
For now, remember that you are not alone in this struggle; help and support are much closer than you may believe. Find your footing beneath what is temporary. Connect to the timeless part of you. And let your future self guide you forward one step at a time.
This morning, after reading the doomsday news and feeling the strong pull of fear and negativity, I asked to see something magical in the world. Later on in the day, I saw this. The picture barely does it justice but it looked as if a giant angel was flying over us. Maybe it really is that simple. Ask and in time you will receive.
Also, my dog weirdly smelled like Milano cookies all day. I'm counting that one too.
While studying outside a coffee shop today, an errant and disturbing thought entered my mind regarding a situation I will most likely have to encounter in my future.
"What will I say? How will I handle it? Ughhh."
Despite a willful attempt to dive back into my book, the doomsday scenarios bounced around my brain. Within minutes my energy had flipped from zen to frantic. Then, almost as if on queue, perfectly timed as per usual, the Beach Boys song "Don't Worry, Baby" started to play from the speakers above my seat.
Worrying rarely produces a positive result. It doesn't do anything for you, except distract you from your path and disconnect you from your source. When we worry, we send out a silent message to the universe: "I don't trust you. I don't trust myself."
We might not always feel or see the support available to us, but it is there. And by opening up to this support, we can trust that we will always be guided to what is best for us at the time.
Worried/Fearful Ego: “What can I know about this upcoming shift in my life?”
Higher/Inner Guidance: “Get quiet. Be patient. All will arrive in time. Details don’t need to be arranged beforehand. All will be filled in accordingly, all in the natural unfolding of time and events. Some days you can feel “blah.” And it is more than ok. To be wherever you are is complete freedom. To not fear is the highest human pursuit. To surrender gracefully to the love ever-present. To stand on mountaintops unafraid of the fall. To trust that the landing, all landings, will be secure and arranged for you. Let go and follow my lead. Something good is always coming.”
Earlier today I was giving myself a hard time over something I had/have no control over. Mid-frustration and despair, I looked up at the sky and saw this rainbow. I laughed at such a wonderfully timed sign, reminding me to let go and trust that I'm right where I need to be. Only later did I realize how perfectly poetic this location was.
There's always a rainbow right above and beyond the barbed wire of our self-imposed imprisonment. We just need to expand our field of vision a bit in order to see it.
It’s hard to know when following the pull of our intuition, if we are just being led to another bridge or if we are to arrive at a more permanent destination. We can ask, “is this the RIGHT ONE?” when referring to a new love interest, job title, or residence. Yet, does it even really matter? Perhaps it doesn’t matter as much when we remember our eternal nature. That we are constantly expanding and evolving souls having human experiences, and that our true power, value, security, and identity doesn’t come from the other people in our lives or the situations in which we find ourselves. That true solace never comes from the temporary. And that Life is always taking us where we need to go next.
When we come from this viewpoint, we can trust that it is always the “right one” for what we need “right now,” whether it lasts one day, one year, or for the rest of our lives. And the “right now”- this present moment- is all we’re ever really living anyway.