People talk about life purpose as if it’s a particular job title or career to stumble upon and then pursue. As if all jobs that came before that “life purpose” discovery are wasted experiences. As if you’re late to the successful people party and need to catch up to do that thing you are supposed to be doing. As if once you find “it” you’re done. You’re set. You’re in. You know. You’re there. And yet, in truth, the jobs we hold are only one aspect of living our purpose. Oh, and also- it is quite impossible to be late to a party that is only ever happening NOW.
Your life purpose is to live YOUR particular life. It is to follow your own unique path as directed by your own inner guidance. It is to find alignment with the largest and most expansive part of you - your soul body - the part that never wavers in its attention and support of you. It holds the original blueprint to the life of your dreams - the life that feels most true and authentic and familiar as if it is the life you have always desired, the life you may have forgotten you came here to live.
Part of your life’s purpose is to return home to yourself. It is to pursue your own healing and find peace within. It is to quiet your mind, pull your focus inward, and listen to your own intuitive guidance. It is to seek out the simple pleasures that bring you joy, to find more and more things to feel good about. Every day. It is to move in the direction of your natural curiosities; those unique and eclectic interests, talents, and affinities which make you, you. And to take any particular actions that feel fun and/or inspired.
This dream life - your life’s purpose - is not only about the tasks you complete, the titles you hold, the people with whom you associate, or the legacy that you leave. It is about the energy you contribute to your environment. Daily. It is your feeling of personal satisfaction, enjoyment, and fulfillment regardless of what job you are doing and where you are doing it.
Your life’s purpose is to honor your soul’s directives and to live your life’s joy. And to return to this knowing whenever you forget.
There’s a church in my neighborhood that always displays helpful messages on its marquee. Today’s gem was: “Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side because it’s fake.”
Amazing. Thank you, church marquee. As always, everything and everyone outside of you is just a mirror and a symbol. Jealousy is a highlighter of what you think you lack and/or an indicator of where you’re headed next. After all, what it seems like others have is often just your own projection. You don’t have all of the details. You can’t see everything behind the scenes. Life is lived in between those Instagrammable moments. People are much more than what they appear to be on a screen.
Remember you are creating your own experience here with every breath, every thought, every energetic spiral forward, every vibration that you BE. Ask “what am I telling myself about what this person seems to be telling me? What does it appear like they have that I don’t?” Whatever emotional experiences they appear to be having (i.e. approval, freedom, self-acceptance) are just showing you what you are ready to activate within yourself. Take what you need to assist you on your own path, leave what you don’t- especially any disempowering stories of someone else’s perfection and your relative imperfection. Not everything is what it seems to be.
It’s all just grass until you decide upon the shade.
Popularity doesn't always prove talent. It doesn't indicate value or worth. The chase after fame is a perpetual one, a never-ending dance with dissatisfaction. How completely exhausting.
A solution? Just put your focus on the work. Make your art. Keep following your joy. Be yourself. With or without the outside validation. In this world there is so much extraordinary existing within relative obscurity. Be extraordinary. Focus on what you're here to do- what you love to do- and do it. Have fun. And don't worry about the rest.
I always start out making these little doodles as reminders for myself. When I feel the pull to share them I think it's because someone else out there needs the reminder too. I don't know who this is for but I hope it brings you a bit of relief and comfort. We aren't here to be copies of each other. We aren't here to live out what others project or expect for us. We don't have to live a life that doesn't feel true or authentic to our own being. We may get inspired by what others do and have, we might find similarities and points where we intersect, but overall our lives are uniquely ours. We get to draw and color them in as we choose based on what feels best to us and for us at any given time.
A pang of jealousy is a helpful little lightbulb, illuminating the areas in which we feel a lack. It's an internal alarm that wakes us up to any feelings of unworthiness. It notifies us of where we may need to alter our self-perception. Instead of holding onto this heaviness and letting it immobilize you, why not use it to your advantage and then let it go?
In any moment of unexpected jealousy, ask yourself "what am I telling myself about what this person is telling me? What does it seem like they have? How must they be feeling?" And then, "what is it that I REALLY want? How do I really want to feel?"
We say we want the thing (i.e. the romantic relationship, the high paying job, the trending body type) but we may just want the emotional experience it promises (i.e. connection, freedom from worry, self-acceptance). We seek the form but it's often the feeling, the essence, the quality underneath it that we desire.
If you're coveting a certain quality - be it love, excitement, purpose, abundance, etc., then you also have the capacity to experience it. We are all connected. Every feeling that has ever and could ever be felt by a human being exists somewhere within you. It may be lying dormant but it's there, waiting for recognition and activation. Keep inquiring. Get to the root of what you really want- the emotional experience that you really desire to have. Where do you already have bits and pieces of it in your life? Focus your attention and your gratitude there. Start with the feeling itself and let it grow. Cultivate that energy. Conscious manifestation always originates within.
In a world where we have constant access to the daily activities and accomplishments of friends and strangers, it can be easy to feel unimportant and not good enough as we measure our own value and success against the projected images of others. A quick scroll through our social media feeds can sometimes lead to a barrage of self-abusing thoughts as we compare our current state of affairs to what we see: "Wow, they got...? Did...? Went there with ...? I'm not doing that. I don't have that. They're so much better/cooler/richer/hotter blah blah blah."
These thoughts may arrive naturally, but they won't stick around long if you remember the TRUTH: that no one else has ever or will ever live life as YOU. You are a 100% unique creature- even if you share similarities with others or identify with an archetype and trope of personality- you are the only you. No one can know this life as you know it. They haven't experienced your exact experiences, thought your thoughts, seen through your lenses of perception, felt the sensations you've felt through your skin. You are here to be you. No one else. So in that case, success can only truly be measured by how much you are accepting of and expressing as your authentic self.
Having a window into other peoples' lives doesn't have to be detrimental. It can actually be inspiring. Instead of spinning out in self-hatred, use those momentary sparks of jealousy to light a fire within your own unique being. Peek around that newly illuminated space and notice the buried desires, hidden hopes, natural curiosities, and true interests that are trying to get your attention. Even if they're really f-ing weird and different. They are yours. And losing yourself in them - following them wherever they may take you- will eventually lead to feelings of accomplishment and fulfillment. Reconnect to your soul and the true source of your happiness and success. It's always within you.