People talk about life purpose as if it’s a particular job title or career to stumble upon and then pursue. As if all jobs that came before that “life purpose” discovery are wasted experiences. As if you’re late to the successful people party and need to catch up to do that thing you are supposed to be doing. As if once you find “it” you’re done. You’re set. You’re in. You know. You’re there. And yet, in truth, the jobs we hold are only one aspect of living our purpose. Oh, and also- it is quite impossible to be late to a party that is only ever happening NOW.
Your life purpose is to live YOUR particular life. It is to follow your own unique path as directed by your own inner guidance. It is to find alignment with the largest and most expansive part of you - your soul body - the part that never wavers in its attention and support of you. It holds the original blueprint to the life of your dreams - the life that feels most true and authentic and familiar as if it is the life you have always desired, the life you may have forgotten you came here to live.
Part of your life’s purpose is to return home to yourself. It is to pursue your own healing and find peace within. It is to quiet your mind, pull your focus inward, and listen to your own intuitive guidance. It is to seek out the simple pleasures that bring you joy, to find more and more things to feel good about. Every day. It is to move in the direction of your natural curiosities; those unique and eclectic interests, talents, and affinities which make you, you. And to take any particular actions that feel fun and/or inspired.
This dream life - your life’s purpose - is not only about the tasks you complete, the titles you hold, the people with whom you associate, or the legacy that you leave. It is about the energy you contribute to your environment. Daily. It is your feeling of personal satisfaction, enjoyment, and fulfillment regardless of what job you are doing and where you are doing it.
Your life’s purpose is to honor your soul’s directives and to live your life’s joy. And to return to this knowing whenever you forget.
There’s a church in my neighborhood that always displays helpful messages on its marquee. Today’s gem was: “Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side because it’s fake.”
Amazing. Thank you, church marquee. As always, everything and everyone outside of you is just a mirror and a symbol. Jealousy is a highlighter of what you think you lack and/or an indicator of where you’re headed next. After all, what it seems like others have is often just your own projection. You don’t have all of the details. You can’t see everything behind the scenes. Life is lived in between those Instagrammable moments. People are much more than what they appear to be on a screen.
Remember you are creating your own experience here with every breath, every thought, every energetic spiral forward, every vibration that you BE. Ask “what am I telling myself about what this person seems to be telling me? What does it appear like they have that I don’t?” Whatever emotional experiences they appear to be having (i.e. approval, freedom, self-acceptance) are just showing you what you are ready to activate within yourself. Take what you need to assist you on your own path, leave what you don’t- especially any disempowering stories of someone else’s perfection and your relative imperfection. Not everything is what it seems to be.
It’s all just grass until you decide upon the shade.
Today I will be humble. I will be aware of my simultaneous significance and insignificance as a human being. I will be loving. I will greet others with the same respect and warmth I would hope to receive. I will be grateful. I will remember the interconnection of all things, the illusion of linear time, and the truth that energy can neither be created nor destroyed. I will know that all that once existed still exists in different form. I will feel safe in my body, trusting that the natural expression of my essence is the temporary role I am here to play. Whatever passions excite me, whatever delights my spirit, whatever leaves me with a peaceful sense of purpose, is the way in which I send out love to my environment. It is my unique contribution to the collective. I will be myself. I will walk the world with patience and with ease, knowing that wherever I wander I am home.
"Impatience means I believe something’s not going to happen.“ -Joe Dispenza
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.“ -A Course In Miracles
I really liked this combo of quotes. Especially if we‘re talking about presence, patience, following the energy of the moment, and trusting in life as our co-creative partner. (And we‘re always talking about that).
Just going to leave them right here...
“Life takes care of me. Always. I have nothing to fear and I have everything to appreciate. I am never doing this alone. I can walk in the world with ease, trusting that all comes to me and all comes to be in perfect time.”
This was the message that came through my higher guidance this morning when I asked what I could remember to help me move through some of the resistance I was feeling toward my day. Despite “knowing better” I had a huge feeling of overwhelm and responsibility. The need to get my plans in motion and to figure out all the details right now.
A couple of hours later, while running on a rarely frequented street in my neighborhood, I stopped to take this picture. It occurred to me afterwards that I had taken a very similar photo in the exact same spot nearly 2 years ago. So much has taken place since then. So many experiences and opportunities that came in - often by pleasant surprise - and all in a way that was beyond my imagination. Beyond what I could have figured out beforehand or attempted to do alone.
Thank you life for the perfect example. I get it. Trust trust trust trust trust...
Maybe life isn't withholding anything from you after all. Maybe it's just waiting on your readiness and relying on your willingness to change so that it can set up all the important pieces, arrange meetings with the relevant players, and slowly prepare you for the part you hope to play, the things you'd like to experience, and the way you'd like to feel. Maybe you're right where you need to be in this process of alignment. Maybe life is actually supporting you with its timing as it orchestrates - and excitedly anticipates -your eventual becoming.
A guilt trip is not a mandatory voyage. People may invite you along but you never have to accept the offer. Trust your own intuition and where it's leading you. Keep moving in the direction that feels best for your soul. Like everything, where you go and how you go is just a choice. Your choice. So, choose you.
As an intuitive, I tend to get a lot of requests from people seeking clarity around their romantic relationships or interests, wanting to know how or when they will find love with this particular person or another in the future. The guidance that comes through is always specific to the individual, yet there's a certain piece of awareness I was given, which I find to be a very helpful reminder:
Love is not the same thing as a romantic relationship or partnership. That's a commitment between two individuals on a synced up timeline, sharing similar lifestyles, values, and goals. It's two people choosing to connect over a joint mission. Love itself, is a state of being. It's a memory awakened, a homecoming, a rediscovery of one's own soul. True love is a state of total freedom and acceptance. It is an unconditional allowance to be who we are, as we are. It is seeing and being seen through the eyes of the divine. Love is where we come from. That is why it feels so amazing to "fall into" it. Because we fall into our eternal self. We reconnect to our infinite nature. We are reminded of our true origin.
Love is a personal journey experienced within our own body. We feel more love from the outside world as we feel more of it within and for ourselves. And we feel more of it for ourselves, as we honor and allow our most authentic self-expression to arise; by listening to our soul's whispers, overcoming the ego's fears, and doing what we are here on this planet to do. Love is found as we remember our highest spiritual source and embrace our truest self.
Romantic relationship is a mutual decision based on timing and practicalities. But love? Love is available to anyone, anytime, anywhere.
It takes real inner strength to love so boldly. To be vulnerable, authentic, and true. How very impressive it is to unapologetically wear your heart on your sleeve, to brazenly display it on your petals, to not hide it in the face of possible rejection. To be that unabashed and open? Wow. It takes real courage to lead with love. This flower gets it.
Every time I've tried to be someone else, when I've played into other people's expectations of me, or walked in a direction that did not feel authentic or true, I've been completely miserable. I was pleasing others, sure, but I was ignoring who I really was and could be. And every time that I have listened to my higher wisdom, when I followed the pulls of genuine curiosity, desire, and interest - when I did what was most loving for me even if it was really f*cking weird or different or sometimes nonsensical, even if it temporarily disappointed others because of what they needed me to be for them - I've discovered and attracted all kinds of joy, fulfillment, and magic. And I've also become a better daughter, sister, friend, and overall person because of it.
Guilt still comes up at times. But reminding myself of the principle "what is most loving for me is most loving for you" helps. It's not easy to move in your own often quirky and unpredictable way- to trust yourself enough to do so- but ultimately it's the most freeing thing one can do.
Today I will look in the mirror without criticizing my appearance; wishing this or that was smaller/bigger/tighter. I will not reject any reflection of this holy body, the current home of my soul. I will release myself from the clutches of popular opinion, remembering that trends are ever-changing, that standards can be optional, and that perspective is merely a choice. I will say goodbye to old habits of self-criticism. I will welcome the euphoria of self-approval and the personal power that can only come from self-appreciation. I will recognize the purpose in my uniqueness and the miraculous magic of the human form.
And I will revel in my freedom.
Nothing is personal. How people behave is based on whatever they’ve got going on with them. Everyone has their own insecurities, stressors, triggers, anxieties, and challenging life circumstances. We’ve all got our own burdens. Light or heavy, we’re all carrying something with us into our daily interactions.
Just because someone else’s treatment of you is not personal, doesn’t mean you should ignore your emotional reaction to the situation. Spiritually bypassing a negative emotion is only prolonging the inevitable. Often the best way out is through. Emotions are energy in MOTION. They want/need to move. Whatever arises within you, face it, feel it, forgive it, and let it work its way through your system. Never underestimate the healing power of a 5 minute ugly-cry.
Everything is purposeful. Take whatever time you need to emotionally process. When you’re ready and able to, take the focus off of your reactionary self. Look through and above the situation, from the highest vantage point possible. Ask your wisest self (who already knows): what is this really about? What is the opportunity for me here? What awareness have I gained? What has this situation inspired in me? What new choice can I now make? What new energy can I be? What new actions can I take? And what kind of lasting positive change can I hope to experience in MY life as a result? Move forward accordingly.
Popularity doesn't always prove talent. It doesn't indicate value or worth. The chase after fame is a perpetual one, a never-ending dance with dissatisfaction. How completely exhausting.
A solution? Just put your focus on the work. Make your art. Keep following your joy. Be yourself. With or without the outside validation. In this world there is so much extraordinary existing within relative obscurity. Be extraordinary. Focus on what you're here to do- what you love to do- and do it. Have fun. And don't worry about the rest.
Possible Q's: Why would I try to do what so many other people are doing and have already done? Does the world really need another___?
Pertinent A's: Yes, there may be others on a similar path, with a similar style, all sharing a similar picture of success, but there is no one else in the world that is exactly like you. No one else has lived your unique combination of experiences and can bring to your endeavors exactly what you bring. No two people are the same.
If you are pulled by joyful curiosity, genuine interest, and heart-felt desire, then there must be a reason for it. Even if you don't know what it is yet. Trust it and move forward at your own natural pace, in your own natural way. Each of us has a variety of roles to play, messages to share, people to reach, and services to provide. We're all interconnected, all a part of a much larger incomprehensible picture. So, how can you, in your limited human awareness, ever really know what the world actually needs?
Maybe it needs just the thing you've been holding back from it.
Some heartbreaks are necessary heartbreak-throughs. But we often don't recognize it until later on.
We are always being brought what we need in order to grow into our best, strongest, and most uniquely beautiful selves. These things don't happen to us. They happen for us. And with enough time and awareness, we may even say thank you! Thank you for this broken heart. Thank you for not giving me what I thought I wanted. Because what I have received instead is so soooo much better.
I am not what happened to me in the past. I am not what that person said I was. I am not who I used to be. These things may have been relevant once upon a time, they may have applied before, but they no longer get to define me.
I get to define me.
I am a constant evolution, a perceiving, deciding, and acting point of consciousness. I change, I grow, I become.
I choose who and how I want to be.
Did I make good choices? Did I take any new positive actions? Did I step in the direction of my desires? Was I honest with myself? Was I honest with others? Do the people that I love, know that I love them? Did I do the best that I could do?
Ok, then. Cool. Today was a good day. Today was a success. And even if it wasn't, even if I didn't get a passing grade, tomorrow I'll get another chance. Tomorrow I'll have another go.
I always start out making these little doodles as reminders for myself. When I feel the pull to share them I think it's because someone else out there needs the reminder too. I don't know who this is for but I hope it brings you a bit of relief and comfort. We aren't here to be copies of each other. We aren't here to live out what others project or expect for us. We don't have to live a life that doesn't feel true or authentic to our own being. We may get inspired by what others do and have, we might find similarities and points where we intersect, but overall our lives are uniquely ours. We get to draw and color them in as we choose based on what feels best to us and for us at any given time.
Surrender doesn't mean giving UP. It doesn't mean giving IN. It means giving WAY to the greater intelligence within your heart, your own inner light. It means connecting with your highest, truest, and freest self - that constant, eternal, unwavering part of your being that never changes, judges, or abandons you. It means listening to what it has to say and letting it lead you down the path, trusting that you are moving in the right direction, even if your current circumstances indicate otherwise. Your passions are always on purpose.
I've never really been the type to get starstruck. Well, there was that one time I sat next to Deepak Chopra at a cafe. And maybe I was a bit in awe when I waited on Lily Tomlin at my old restaurant job. But it wasn't because they were famous. It wasn't because their names are known and their faces are easily recognizable. It was mostly because they've both left such an impact on me personally through their work. It was not about their celebrity. It was more about their contribution.
I have never understood famous for famous sake. I have always felt uncomfortable with such an arbitrary hierarchy. I have often been curious about our celebrity-obsessed culture; how and why we place certain people up on our societally approved pedestals. No wonder I had pursued a career in the entertainment business way past the time it felt right or fun for me; I had somehow confused being powerful with being famous.
I was recently told while getting an energy reading that I was here to be "the star of my own life." I thought, yeah. Totally. But... aren't we all here to do that? Aren't we all here to activate our own inner power, to shine our own brand of brilliance, to gift the world with our unique glow, to contribute our own light into the collective? We're all made up of stardust anyway. So, in a sense, we are all stars.
A pang of jealousy is a helpful little lightbulb, illuminating the areas in which we feel a lack. It's an internal alarm that wakes us up to any feelings of unworthiness. It notifies us of where we may need to alter our self-perception. Instead of holding onto this heaviness and letting it immobilize you, why not use it to your advantage and then let it go?
In any moment of unexpected jealousy, ask yourself "what am I telling myself about what this person is telling me? What does it seem like they have? How must they be feeling?" And then, "what is it that I REALLY want? How do I really want to feel?"
We say we want the thing (i.e. the romantic relationship, the high paying job, the trending body type) but we may just want the emotional experience it promises (i.e. connection, freedom from worry, self-acceptance). We seek the form but it's often the feeling, the essence, the quality underneath it that we desire.
If you're coveting a certain quality - be it love, excitement, purpose, abundance, etc., then you also have the capacity to experience it. We are all connected. Every feeling that has ever and could ever be felt by a human being exists somewhere within you. It may be lying dormant but it's there, waiting for recognition and activation. Keep inquiring. Get to the root of what you really want- the emotional experience that you really desire to have. Where do you already have bits and pieces of it in your life? Focus your attention and your gratitude there. Start with the feeling itself and let it grow. Cultivate that energy. Conscious manifestation always originates within.
In the midst of a life-altering shift, it's hard to believe that things are actually happening for us and that we are right where we need to be. As we free-fall into uncertainty, it can be difficult to trust where and even if we'll ever land.
If you find yourself floating in such a situation of confusion, if you're flying headfirst into foreign and unfamiliar territory, be as gentle and kind with yourself as you can throughout this process of transition. Know that at some point soon, you'll once again find yourself on solid ground. Remember that this is just a moment in the series of moments you will experience in a lifetime. It may very well be a pivotal point in your story, one which will undoubtably contribute to the wealth of knowledge, courage, and experience you will one day possess, as it helps you grow into the person you will one day become.
For now, remember that you are not alone in this struggle; help and support are much closer than you may believe. Find your footing beneath what is temporary. Connect to the timeless part of you. And let your future self guide you forward one step at a time.