People talk about life purpose as if it’s a particular job title or career to stumble upon and then pursue. As if all jobs that came before that “life purpose” discovery are wasted experiences. As if you’re late to the successful people party and need to catch up to do that thing you are supposed to be doing. As if once you find “it” you’re done. You’re set. You’re in. You know. You’re there. And yet, in truth, the jobs we hold are only one aspect of living our purpose. Oh, and also- it is quite impossible to be late to a party that is only ever happening NOW.
Your life purpose is to live YOUR particular life. It is to follow your own unique path as directed by your own inner guidance. It is to find alignment with the largest and most expansive part of you - your soul body - the part that never wavers in its attention and support of you. It holds the original blueprint to the life of your dreams - the life that feels most true and authentic and familiar as if it is the life you have always desired, the life you may have forgotten you came here to live.
Part of your life’s purpose is to return home to yourself. It is to pursue your own healing and find peace within. It is to quiet your mind, pull your focus inward, and listen to your own intuitive guidance. It is to seek out the simple pleasures that bring you joy, to find more and more things to feel good about. Every day. It is to move in the direction of your natural curiosities; those unique and eclectic interests, talents, and affinities which make you, you. And to take any particular actions that feel fun and/or inspired.
This dream life - your life’s purpose - is not only about the tasks you complete, the titles you hold, the people with whom you associate, or the legacy that you leave. It is about the energy you contribute to your environment. Daily. It is your feeling of personal satisfaction, enjoyment, and fulfillment regardless of what job you are doing and where you are doing it.
Your life’s purpose is to honor your soul’s directives and to live your life’s joy. And to return to this knowing whenever you forget.
Maybe life isn't withholding anything from you after all. Maybe it's just waiting on your readiness and relying on your willingness to change so that it can set up all the important pieces, arrange meetings with the relevant players, and slowly prepare you for the part you hope to play, the things you'd like to experience, and the way you'd like to feel. Maybe you're right where you need to be in this process of alignment. Maybe life is actually supporting you with its timing as it orchestrates - and excitedly anticipates -your eventual becoming.
Last night I had a dream that I was running down the street; trying to make my way to the house of a couple whose lifestyle I admire. I've never met them in real life, but have been so inspired by their story through their blogs and podcasts. It's almost as if discovering them two years ago allowed me to rediscover a part of myself and the kind of life I really want to live. And so somewhere along the way, they must have become a symbolic representation of the future I've been working towards. In the dream, I felt like I could not run fast enough. I kept trying to push myself harder, but my pace remained a steady jog, instead of a sprint. I heard some threatening noises coming from across the street. I just HAD to reach my destination. I bumped into other people who crossed my path. I kept going. Kept trying to increase my speed. I had to get there and quick! And then before I could even make it, I woke up.
Sometimes dreams can be the most precious gifts of self-awareness. To attach a sense of solace or personal fulfillment to a future destination or temporary object is to forget the significance of the daily journey. It is to miss out on all the potent opportunities to meet life fully, to free ourselves through presence and to evolve through self-acceptance. We may be putting so much pressure on ourselves to get THERE, yet it is only ever HERE - in surrender to the truth of the moment - that a deeper sense of personal peace, healing, love, and sustained fulfillment can be found. The desires we have for the future are necessary for direction, motivation, and positive action. Our goals keep us moving toward more experiences of freedom and of joy. Yet, it's only in the NOW, that we ever get to feel it.
I used to think I had to do big things to change the world, that I had to be "someone" to really have an effect, to really make a difference. But separation is an illusion. Everything we do is a contribution to the collective. All thoughts, all prayers, all daily actions taken out of love. You don't have to be someone in order to make a huge impact. You already are. You already do.
Popularity doesn't always prove talent. It doesn't indicate value or worth. The chase after fame is a perpetual one, a never-ending dance with dissatisfaction. How completely exhausting.
A solution? Just put your focus on the work. Make your art. Keep following your joy. Be yourself. With or without the outside validation. In this world there is so much extraordinary existing within relative obscurity. Be extraordinary. Focus on what you're here to do- what you love to do- and do it. Have fun. And don't worry about the rest.
Did I make good choices? Did I take any new positive actions? Did I step in the direction of my desires? Was I honest with myself? Was I honest with others? Do the people that I love, know that I love them? Did I do the best that I could do?
Ok, then. Cool. Today was a good day. Today was a success. And even if it wasn't, even if I didn't get a passing grade, tomorrow I'll get another chance. Tomorrow I'll have another go.
How much money you make, whether or not you own your home, what kind of car you drive, the number of countries you've been to, which celebrities you hang with, the amount of shiny things you possess, and how many followers you've accumulated on social media may be interesting and impressive to some degree, but it's kind of irrelevant if it doesn't also accompany a high level of integrity, a way of showing generosity and kindness to others, a passion for the work you do or atleast the causes you believe in, courageousness in approaching and overcoming life's challenges, a willingness to learn and evolve and better yourself as a person, an ability to listen and support those closest to you with unconditional love and compassion, and an overall desire to be a positive contribution to the world. That other stuff is cool but it's heart that matters more.
I've never really been the type to get starstruck. Well, there was that one time I sat next to Deepak Chopra at a cafe. And maybe I was a bit in awe when I waited on Lily Tomlin at my old restaurant job. But it wasn't because they were famous. It wasn't because their names are known and their faces are easily recognizable. It was mostly because they've both left such an impact on me personally through their work. It was not about their celebrity. It was more about their contribution.
I have never understood famous for famous sake. I have always felt uncomfortable with such an arbitrary hierarchy. I have often been curious about our celebrity-obsessed culture; how and why we place certain people up on our societally approved pedestals. No wonder I had pursued a career in the entertainment business way past the time it felt right or fun for me; I had somehow confused being powerful with being famous.
I was recently told while getting an energy reading that I was here to be "the star of my own life." I thought, yeah. Totally. But... aren't we all here to do that? Aren't we all here to activate our own inner power, to shine our own brand of brilliance, to gift the world with our unique glow, to contribute our own light into the collective? We're all made up of stardust anyway. So, in a sense, we are all stars.
Worried/Fearful Ego: “What can I know about this upcoming shift in my life?”
Higher/Inner Guidance: “Get quiet. Be patient. All will arrive in time. Details don’t need to be arranged beforehand. All will be filled in accordingly, all in the natural unfolding of time and events. Some days you can feel “blah.” And it is more than ok. To be wherever you are is complete freedom. To not fear is the highest human pursuit. To surrender gracefully to the love ever-present. To stand on mountaintops unafraid of the fall. To trust that the landing, all landings, will be secure and arranged for you. Let go and follow my lead. Something good is always coming.”
Making a wish is easy. But believing it can actually come true and taking new actions in support of your desired circumstance, takes openness, fearlessness, and courage. No wonder we make our wishes by blowing on dandelions, the flower whose name means "lion's tooth."
In magic and in life, there really is no substitute for self-advocation.
Ridge’s meaning: “the top or crest of something”
View’s definition: “a sight or prospect”
Crow’s message: Change, it is who you are and what you do. Transformation is unavoidable. Transitions are inevitable. Excitement and discomfort are your guides. You’ve asked for more. So let it come. Let it arrive as a surprise. Let it surpass your expectations. Trust in life’s magical and miraculous way of taking you where you’ve always wanted to go. Keep moving forward. Keep looking up.