“Good things come to those who wait.”
There’s no such thing as waiting here, when to be alive is to be in a state of perpetual evolution. Where all is consciousness. Where we attract based on our energetic being-ness. Where we continually create some form of meaning out of our surroundings and our experiences. When the very process of perceiving the world around you is an action in and of itself, setting off a series of reactions within you. Where you are consistently integrating all that you come into contact with into your very being. You couldn’t wait if you tried.
“Ok then. How about: good things come to those who are patient.”
Better. But still, no. Being patient assumes that there is something you must be patient for - something out there that you do not have access to now, some down-the-line experience, and that you must bide your time until it arrives.
It is said that patience is a virtue and yet, this virtue still places joy, happiness, fulfillment, and salvation at a later date. Which must mean that this time period now is less than, compared to a future in which things will be better.
And yet, aren’t you nostalgic for certain times that have passed, even those times that were challenging? That because you were so focused on the negative aspects of the past and the things that you seemingly lacked in the present, which you would hopefully have in your fantasized-about future, that you missed out on all the really wonderful things that were going on at that time?
Don’t you wish you had relaxed a little back then because it all actually worked out and you survived and things got better?
Don’t you wish you had spent more time appreciating all that you did have then, instead of being so preoccupied with all that you didn’t?
“Um yeah. That’s true. Well then, how about this: good things come to those who are present.”
Very close. As stopping the stream of anxious past/future-projecting thoughts can be a life changing process. To practice being fully present puts you in direct connection with the timeless, centered part of you- your inner divinity. It is while resting here that you can access true ease and peace. Where everything’s going to be okay, even if on the surface it doesn’t appear to be.
When you tap into this space within yourself, you are tapping into the unconditionally loving vibration of your own soul. And the more you are grounded within your own soul, the more you are able to fully appreciate people, places, and things as they are. Not needing them to be any different to please you, fulfill you, or sustain you.
In this aligned state, you are more open to your intuition and the wise guidance of your soul. You may more clearly receive its directives; the next steps on the path to achieving your goals: those “good things” that you desire. You may even feel so amazing in this higher vibration of soul alignment, that you start attracting some of these “good things” in the most surprising and delightful manner. You find yourself in a sense of wonder at the universe’s magic, as manifestations exceed your expectations.
But that’s not quite it. As you may then use this process as a means to an end, aiming to focus yourself into an action (meditating) to achieve an end result (getting that good stuff). Which ofcourse keeps you out of the present and entirely future-focused. You might find yourself frustrated at a perceived lack of progress and ask “why am I not better at this spiritual stuff? I must be doing it wrong, because if I was better then I would be THERE by now. I must try harder! I’ve gotta get that person/place/thing! My life’s happiness depends upon it!”
Before you realize it, you’re right back into those old egoic patterns of shame, right/wrong thinking, judgment, and ofcourse, codependence. You are still presuming that your solace exists somewhere down the line. That you need to DO something better in order to GET somewhere better. And soon, because your feeling good depends on this outside stimulus.
But, what do you really want? The person/place/situation OR the emotional experience it promises? Is it the “good thing” outside of you or is it just the activation of the “good feeling” that is already somewhere buried within you?
“Ahh ok. That makes sense. Well, what is it then?”
Try: Good things are ALWAYS here for me.
It can be difficult to believe this is true when you are stuck on what you lack and so focused on your current challenges, unmet needs, and the absence of desired circumstances. You may believe that if things outside of you would change, then the way you feel inside would change. “If only I had a _______, then everything would be better.”
And while this may be true on some level, to be happy for a reason - because of an external condition- is to base your happiness ON that external condition WHICH YOU CANNOT CONTROL. And even though this manner of being is quite normal, it is hardly sustainable. As it keeps you chasing after those “good things” outside of you. And so even if/when you do attract one of your desired situations, when it changes or it shifts or they leave, you may find yourself all out of sorts and scrambling after the next thing because your temporary source of happiness has abandoned you.
And yet, there is a part of you which will NEVER abandon you. It is always full, always loving, always peaceful. Here there is nothing that you’re missing. There is nothing that you lack. This eternal place exists within you and around you. A feeling you can remember. A perspective you can choose. A realm to which you can return. Where you know everything is always good, always here, always now. Where solutions can present themselves. Where comfort and guidance can be found.
You do not need to go anywhere or get anything. You only need to rest in this deepest part of you. Yourself. Your soul. Your one true home.
Sit and close your eyes. Tune out your mind’s conclusions. Turn up the volume on your senses. Follow along the journey of your breath. Feel the pulse of your body’s aliveness. Reconnect to this quiet, inner space; the very center of the entire universe. Remain here as long as you wish.
Just to feel this peace. This freedom, expansiveness, infinity. This creative potential. This inherent worthiness - always existing within you - that is independent of the whims and determinations of another.
Just BE here. To feel GOOD. To feel BETTER. To feel the fullness of your being. To remember who you really are.
Do this every day. Just because. Not to have good things come to you. Not to gain anything. Although practiced enough, you no doubt will.
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